The hitter can never be the judge. Only the receiver of the blow can tell you how hard it was, whether it would kill a man or make a baby just yawn- Edward P. Jones

No one know what you are feeling deep inside unless you tell them.  The hurt, the pain and emotional rollercoaster that is experience can only be felt by the other person if they tak a similar ride.  One has to walk in someone else's shoe to feel the pain they may be feeling.  Sometimes, we judge people by their outward appearance or expression but it may not always be an accurate assessment of how they are feeling on the inside.  Even harsh words spoken to another human being can be damaging.  The effects may even be longterm and we may treat it as trivial.  Let's always be mindful of what we say or do to another person...