"Where do you put your hands on somebody who hurts everywhere?" - Charles D'Ambrosio
A corny response would be "on their heart" or "their soul," some attempt at beating the physical metaphor with an emotional response. But a better answer, I'd say, is to put your hands out. Make them seen. A hurt person is a scared person, a defensive person. To crowd them, to touch them, to reach too far out to them is, in a way, aggressive. Even presumptuous. Why would I, or anyone, assume my/his/her hands contained the ability to heal another's mysterious wounds. As far as I know, a person's wounds could've been caused by a friend who "wanted to help" and was let in close enough to the victim's heart to do damage. So I hold my position; put your hands out. Show someone in pain that you are there, that you want to help. A large part of pain is the loss of control it brings, so, to someone confused and in agony, giving them the ability to take control, to seek help, might be as important as the help itself. Touching someone is sometimes too much, but displaying a kinship of existence is an entirely different story.
-Reid Williams
A corny response would be "on their heart" or "their soul," some attempt at beating the physical metaphor with an emotional response. But a better answer, I'd say, is to put your hands out. Make them seen. A hurt person is a scared person, a defensive person. To crowd them, to touch them, to reach too far out to them is, in a way, aggressive. Even presumptuous. Why would I, or anyone, assume my/his/her hands contained the ability to heal another's mysterious wounds. As far as I know, a person's wounds could've been caused by a friend who "wanted to help" and was let in close enough to the victim's heart to do damage. So I hold my position; put your hands out. Show someone in pain that you are there, that you want to help. A large part of pain is the loss of control it brings, so, to someone confused and in agony, giving them the ability to take control, to seek help, might be as important as the help itself. Touching someone is sometimes too much, but displaying a kinship of existence is an entirely different story.
-Reid Williams
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